Tag Archives: love
Being annoying in the time of cholera*
One of my many annoying characteristics is that I interrupt a lot. It’s probably why some people have wondered if I have a personality disorder, and why others have simply wondered if I understand basic manners. It’s a no to … Continue reading
The Mundanity of Suicidality – or, why one RUOK day is never enough (even though I recognise the value of awareness raising and hope you all check out the resources available).
For those of us for whom depressive thought patterns started early on in life, it can be tricky to understand what’s normal for most people. Part of me figured that probably not everyone went through phases of suicidal thoughts (of … Continue reading
Internet Dating: my opinion from so three years ago.
This was originally published as a piece for Eternity Newspaper. ‘Fat Boy’, 24, was the last in a long line of totally unsuitable matches sent to me because of our “deep compatibility”. In answer to the form question, “I typically … Continue reading
In praise of wardens.
We all have them in our church, different denominations call them different things, wardens, deacons, whatever, they’re the people who help balance the books, manage the material resources of the conregation, and generally help the entire community by getting organised … Continue reading
I just don’t feel like it.
A few of my posts recently have circled around the tricky space between emotions and will, and a conversation at Bible study yesterday prompted me to address this head on. What do you do when you feel emotionally and spiritually … Continue reading
Sometimes I’m good at welcoming*
*and by welcoming I’m mostly talking about at church, but also in my people based ministry job. But I actually apply these things all the time, at people’s parties, funerals, sudden shared public experiences. I like to think I’d be … Continue reading
coogie and doogie
So my dear friend is engaged to a younger man. Shock! Horror! Consternation! The nickname started with him. He’s a med student and looks like Doogie Howser MD (but is too young to know who that is!) and is young, … Continue reading
how to adult
So, my favourite youtubers, the vlogbrothers, have launched another channel called ‘how to adult’. It is much needed! Interestingly, they’ve already covered, ‘how to ask someone out’, recommending ‘the indirect method’ of, well, basically, not actually asking someone out… This … Continue reading
crushed
High on the list of the most awkward, painful and traumatic things I’ve done is ‘telling someone I ‘like’ like them'(Ok ok, in one case it wasn’t so much that as, ‘hey, I’m obsessed with you. That’s attractive right?’). Very … Continue reading
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